For obvious reasons, since I deal a lot with labiaplasty and vaginoplasty, I deal mostly with women. However, let me break with my normal patterns and speak with the men. That’s right, I want to talk to the guys about that most-female of procedures, the labiaplasty.
Specifically, let’s discuss what you should do if you feel that a labiaplasty would be helpful to your spouse or sexual partner. There are a few steps you must take before you ever broach this subject with her.
The first step is that you should learn everything you can about the procedure before talking with her about it. It’s important for you to understand why many women want to get the procedure. You also need to know what’s done during a labiaplasty. Find out about what will happen before the operation and during the recovery time. You should also make yourself aware of the arguments that people use both against labiaplasty and in favor of it.
Second, and most importantly, if the labiaplasty is something only you feel would be helpful, do not even mention the subject. Many women feel fine about their bodies the way they are, and it would be terribly hurtful for you to suggest that you are not if she is. You should only introduce the subject of labiaplasty if your partner has already mentioned her dissatisfaction with her labia’s look or feel. Even when she complains once, it’s probably smart not to mention labiaplasty. However, if it becomes a pattern, then it’s safe to suggest that labiaplasty might make her feel better.
Third, and perhaps most importantly, stress to your partner that you find her attractive just as she is and that the labiaplasty is something she should do for herself, not to change your opinion of her. Ironically, she will be a better candidate for labiaplasty if she understands that you’re not trying to impose your view of feminine beauty on her. Explain instead that it’s an operation that causes other women to feel better about themselves.
If she agrees that labiaplasty is a good idea, then it’s time for more research. But this time, research the operation with her. Support her as she reaches a final decision as to whether to get the operation done.
And then finally, tell your partner that you will be there to support her during the recovery time from the labiaplasty, even if that means taking a day or two to wait on her hand-and-foot.
